What Protection Is There For A Man Who Doesn’t Want To Have A Baby?
The woman can just get an aborition, whether the man wants the child or not, but if a man DOESN’T want the child, he’s hooked into child support…why can’t a legal document be drawn up removing a man’s rights as father (and subsequent financial obligations) if he doesn’t want child? Then, more women would have abortions because they couldn’t force a man to pay and support her all her life…but needs to be fair situation without all privileges going to woman.
Best protection (and it’s fail proof, too): abstinence from sexual relations. Works every time.
Or, you could wear a condom and use spermicide along with it -unless of course you’re totally against killing those fast little swimmers. In which case, refer back to the abstinence suggestion or vasectomy.
Cheers!
A man does not support a woman with child support – he supports his child. I think the child needs protection more than a man does. After all you can get condoms almost anywhere- takes less time to use one than write those support checks.
I, although pro choice, do not want to see the number of abortions increase. Is it too much trouble for one to research question before one posts another.
It’s your fault you had sex with her without talking about it.
Even if you use birth control and condoms or whatever the hell you use, there’s always a chance of pregnancy.
Your “protection” is the choice to not have sex.
There isn’t any. The only protection you have against not having a child is making responsible reproductive choices, like abstinence.
Use a condom. Don’t let the woman handle the condom. Don’t have sex with someone you think is trying to get pregnant. Use your common sense.
Vasectomy
i agree that having children is of no benefit to men,only women
Jack off.
Wear a condom then and that way it won’t happen. Simple.
A condom, and that is it.
With all due respect: If you aren’t going to use a condom and you are unwilling to get a vasectomy, then you shouldn’t be having sex. If you are going to have unprotected sex, then you need to be willing to deal with the fact that sex can and does result in babies.
What The Man says isn’t true. If you are the father (DNA tests don’t lie), then you are legally obligated to pay child support, and the court system will track you down. If you want respect, learn to take responsibility for your own actions. Needless to say, you haven’t earned my respect yet.
ADDED LATER: I saw your response. If your partner isn’t using any contraceptive measures, then nobody said you had to have sex. No, I wouldn’t tell my partner to “get her tubes tied”. I would walk away. It takes two people to have a baby. Without you, there is no baby. Unless your partner rapes you, YOU ARE MAKING A CONSCIOUS CHOICE. You want someone to tell you that you are in the right. You aren’t. Deal with it.
Men take responsibility for their actions. Boys run away. Think about which category you fall in.
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The paradigm shift happen when the pill came on the market in 63. Condom sales took a nose dive viola birth control become the women’s and solely her responsibility; It’s cultural.
For now though – Men have the choice to keep their sperm to themselves. Once a women has it, she is in possession -possession is 9/10ths of the law- therefore she gets to decide what happens. You could say men only contribute 1/10ths to the whole process to begin with therefore they should not have equal say.
Trust me I wish there was more options for men, I have been of synthetic birth control for 10 years and the only thing that has strained our happiness, is the terrible side effects of my birth control. now I have a IUD in my junk to prevent pregnancy but boy do I look forward to the day, he can get snipped.
~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion
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I can’t remember how many bazillions of times I’ve seen this.
His protections are these: condoms, a vasectomy (assuming he never wants kids).
I agree that men should be able to sign a thing that absolves them of parent-hood (I’ve seen people claim they CAN, in fact, though I’m not sure if or where this is the case). As long as he makes this known in time for her to decide what to do about her pregnancy, I’m fine with it.
Biology is not fair in this situation, as it is only women who get pregnant. Any laws that either force a woman to carry pregnancies to term, or force a woman to have an abortion would be wrong because it’s HER body.
But I have agreed (several bazillion times) that males should be able to opt out of fatherhood.
Uh, “child support” is NOT “supporting HER all her life” (or even at all); it’s providing SOME of the financial support the CHILD needs. You could have made your point without lying.
No one knows what the women would actually do in these cases. It’s possible there’d be more women giving up their babies in adoptions.
Saying that “all” privileges go to women is simply inaccurate and unfair. Decisions about HER body are properly made by HER. Just as you have the right to make decisions about your own body.
See? You didn’t have to lie and distort to get my agreement with your basic point.
FALSE.
If a woman allowed herself to get pregnant without your consent,
there IS something you can do –>> AND ITS EASY.
You look her dead in the eyes without blinking and say: “OK. Maybe you will get my money…… but you will NEVER – EVER – see me again, and neither will YOUR baby. Ever. Starting right now.”
Then LEAVE.
And you must make sure she knows you MEAN IT.
She and her child will NEVER see you again.
When the reality hits that her plan to trap you into fatherhood (and a relationship) with her FAILED MISERABLY….. and she figures out that she will be TOTALLY on her own, you just MULTIPLIED your chances of her getting an abortion immediately – and willingly.
Women know men are not keen on raising another man’s kids, so she will have VERY a tough time dating other men too or getting another man to pay for HER mistakes. No man wants to clean up another man’s garbage…. or look into the eyes of a child and see her ex-boyfriend.
REMIND HER OF THAT.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JrBVMUVt1…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHZSlUeSK…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NqH8rW0YH…
Women don’t think about these things before they lay down and spread their legs.
Extra protection includes putting HOT/ HABENERO sauce in your discarded condom, so when she inserts the sperm into her vagina to extort 216 child support payments from you…. she burns her own cooch – instead of YOU.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WA6tP_DV-…
Become gay