Boyfriend Is Constantly Going Out. Idk What To Do Anymore?
Ever since my boyfriend turned 21 he has been going out. I’m not sure if it’s evry night but I know it’s pretty often. He barely makes anytime for me or our daughter amrit hurts. I altimitly feel like a single parent and my feelings are hurt because he doesn’t seem to care how I feel. He said that its not like I can go out I have the baby and he claims that in a few years things will settle down when were married and start a family. My daughter is not his biologically but I’ve been with him since I was 3 months pregnant. He was there thru everything. I’m upset because he goes out more then he sees me and I feel like he expects me to work a full time job while still making time for my daughter. I go out every once in a while but him ts like he is out every single night. He claims he goes to this guy Tonys house and that he is not cheating but I have not a clue what to think. He gets mad when his mom btches at him but even she sees it and everyone in the house does. He gets mad but I’m hurt because while I’m working so hard to support my daughter and taking car of her he’s out having fun and he barely sees the baby. When I had got with him we had disgust with one another how things would play out with the baby and in the beginning he helped me but now I don’t get any help at all. He might see her a half hr tops out of the weekend. What should I do. I’m so confused and I’m in love with him
Talk to him about how you feel… or live with it.!. Love conquers all…
he is not going to change..no matter what he has said. I cant even begin to make any suggestions…this is as dysfunctional as i have come across in a long time.
Let me see if I got this correctly. Your boyfriend helped you out while you were pregnant with another man’s child. You did not mention where the biological father was or why didn’t he help you.
The man you are in love with, in a sense, is an angel. He’s an angel because when you needed help the most, he was there. He’s a good friend, probably a true friend! Do you think it would be best for you to think of him like this ? He was your knight in shining armor.
Now, that the child has been born and you can work, how much more help do you need? You are no longer the damsel in distress, so maybe he put his armor in the closet and continued on with his life.
Since the child is not his nor are you two married, what obligation does he have to either of you two?
He could just be an honorable man!
Did you ever think perhaps rescuing a damsel in distress and committing to a long term relationship are two different things?
He was capable of being a true friend to you when you needed one, but he might not be ready for a lot of responsibility, such as a wife and child.
Ask yourself this question, ‘would you want someone who doesn’t want you’?
Ask yourself another question, ‘am I being too needy and hence driving him away’?
If you love this man, give him some distance, and focus on your own life. If you have an attitude of entitlement, it will turn him off and drive him away. You can’t force a man, or anyone else, to do something he/she don’t want to do. Remember that.
God uses people to help people; this man could have been placed in your life to carry you through a rough time…your pregnancy…however, he might be temporary. Its best to appreciate what people have done for you instead of looking for more, more and more; perhaps this man doesn’t have more.
Also if you appreciate what he has done for you then it’s a win-win situation. Remember you can attract more bees with honey as opposed to vinegar.
Good Luck and God bless you, your beautiful child and your angel!